Down But Not Out: Things You Need To Do If You Have Frenemy

Cross Keys T-Shirt // DBNO

Shorts // Etcetera

Vans Era Leopard Black True White // Vans

Reppin' my favorite DBNO T-shirt and I go really casual today, back to basic! I'm sure you all knew this clothing line owned by Josh Franceschi from You Me At Six I love his band and I love how he named his clothing line, Down But Not Out. That's some kind of feelings that remind me of my frenemy. Do you ever have a frenemy? Someone who really is a friend but also a rival. Well, I have a frenemy. The question is: Should we keep them as a friend? The best answer would be leave them because it's really exhausting to have a frenemy. It's like we have to pretend we like each others while actually we really don't like each others, heard them say a lot of mean things when you're with your friends and your frenemy also happened to be there. But sometimes, there's a reason why you still keep them. Most reason of why we still keep our frenemy is both of you have a mutual friends. This is a very uncomfortable situation. And if you can't get rid of your frenemy, it's not the end of the world. You could set your goal to be a better person, better life, and don't you ever waste your energy to hate on them. 

When my frenemy hurt my feelings, I'm down but not out. (Now you could see my point of wearing my DBNO t-shirt on this post). It hurts but I don't wanna waste my time to hate her or make a secret poison for her, I promise to myself that I will be way much better than her. I will be twice successful as her and I will be a person that I really want to be. When I was thinking about this.. it makes me focus to chase my dreams, not to make her jealous but to make myself better. Anybody could bring you down but you're the one who could step up your game. I'm glad because after a few months I have 3 jobs that I love, I have a lot of friends, I put bandage on every part of my life that I need to fix. And that's how you won the awkward war with your frenemy! You will laugh back to the day when she hurt your feelings and now you have a good life and she's no better than you. No need to fight with them, be fabulous and say sorry to your frenemy if your back hurt their knife.

If you have a frenemy, share your story with me! It would be great to hear what you all dealing with it.

Tropical Runway

Blue Kimono // Made by Order

Belt // Salvatore Ferragamo

Short Pants // Forever 21

Sneakers Wedges // New Look

Salem Bag // Elle

It's been a busy week and I'm glad I have a long weekend because today is Indonesia Independence Day! So yesterday, my friends and I went to Market & Museum at Lippo Mall Kemang, Jakarta. It's a fashion and food event with a lot of local brands, food truck, and so many delicious food. This time, their theme is Tropical Runway. And the sun in Jakarta isn't playing it cool, it was extremely hot and I know that's the best time for hair bun. 

The first booth that I chose is Pooki Bbang, Korean Poop Bread. That poop isn't belong in the toilet, the poop bread is belong for my tummy (well okay, why this sounds disguisting). It taste like waffle though, in a shape of poop with Nutella filling and it taste so delicious. Second stop is ice cream with bumblebee nests as the topping. Unfortunately I didn't take a picture because the ice cream is melt so fast (as I mention earlier, the crazy hot weather). Our third stop is Fried Mushroom with BBQ sauce and once again I didn't take the picture, this time because it seems so tempting and I can't wait to eat it. 

We didn't end our journey right there! I feel like I really need to write this down because this situation is the winner of the day. On the evening we're looking for a good place to drink and we drive around without knowing where we heading. We decide to go around Senopati and we drive in a wrong way which is one way! We feels like we re-creating a scene from Ant-Man movie where Luis and the crew back it up their van and was like "Back it up bro, back it up. Back it slooow...back it up." If you seen the movie, you should've know what I mean. And yes, in the car we're like back it up broo back it up slooow. I know it's funnier when you see it by yourself but trust me it was hilarious.

So finally we're stopped by at Pong Me to have a drink and pizza. And they also have a ping pong table so we all play there. I was thinking maybe this post makes you wonder that we ate a lot of food for a whole day and why our tummy is never full. I never know the answer, maybe because we just love to eat and try new food in town.

5 Style Essentials To Save Your Day

Boys Tank Top & Fedora // H&M

Black Jeans Shorts // Etienne Aigner

Grey Outer // Gaudi

Sneakers Wedges // New Look

Tiger Bag // Kenzo

es·sen·tial

əˈsen(t)SHəl/

noun

plural noun: essentials

a thing that is absolutely necessary.

 I'm sure everyone has their own style essentials. Stuff that you always need to wear everyday until you didn't realize those stuff become your authentic style. It's not about trends because it's not seasonal. You could wear it everyday or it could save you from those kind of day when you can't decide which clothes that you should wear today. Beside, it's a necessary stuff but it could keep you in style. For me, my style essentials could help me through the day, wearing on my emergency style alert and that's why it's essentials. This is my top list of my style essentials:

Watch

I never go out without my watch. I don't like being late, I need it to know what time is it to catch up with the train schedule or something and I also like to wear something around my wrist. I wear a watch since I was a kid. I used to wear Guess and in the past few years I wear Juicy Couture watch collection. I love their design, totally authentic with their logo and charms. If you could choose a great watch, it would be looks so much better than some bracelet on your wrist. It would keep you on time and you will never go out of style with it. I rarely bought a watch because I always choose a great one that I know I will like it for the next 5 years or more. Currently, Ted Baker watch collection stole my attention. I really love their design and as soon as I saw it, I add it to my shopping wishlist. The great part is Ted Baker watch collection available on Zalora and that would make it easier for me to buy it.

Hat

Fedora is my favorite. Why hat could be a style essentials? Because you could hide your bad hair day but nobody knows because you look fashionable with those hat. If you want a simple street style you could choose a beanie or even snapback. You will never know when you will have a bad hair day, so be prepare.

Basic T-Shirt

I never think this is essentials until I can't match my galaxy skirt. I have too much printing t-shirt and I just realize that I really need a basic t-shirt. You don't have to buy every colors to match your wardrobe. The most important thing is black and white, so it would be easier for you to combine with everything.
 

Stiletto Heel

I'm one of those girl who's not really into stiletto heel and recently I find out that I really need it. When I want to go to my friend's wedding, I was pretty surprise that I owned ankle boots, platform shoes, sneakers, sneakers wedges and more sneakers. Where's my stiletto heels? Don't let this thing happen to you. Stiletto heel is really match with almost every dress that you own, so yes.. you really need it.
 

Outer/Jacket

If I don't have much time to style myself when I'm about to go out, I always pick a tanktop or t-shirt and mix it with a long black outer or a jacket. Because a simple shirt could looks cooler if you add a nice outer.

That's the top list of my style essentials. So if you're planning to have a short shopping list, make sure you buy something that you will always need and you could wear it anytime for most of your occasion. I wonder if I miss something on my list, you all so welcome to tell me: What's your style essentials? Maybe I could add it to my list.

Current Obsession: Ant-Man

Shirt Dress // Zara

Sneakers Wedges // New Look

Salem Bag // Elle

I think this is the best time for me to write about Current Obsession and in this case, my current obsession is Ant-Man. Everyone has a different obsession and you can't judge their obsession. Even though their obsession sounds a little weird for you but I'm sure everyone has a reason for their obsession. I have a reason as well. I've been waiting for Ant-Man movie for God knows how long. To be honest at first I have some thoughts that this movie could be silly or it could be totally awesome, there's no in between. But since I found out that Paul Rudd would be Scott Lang, I'm 100% sure this movie would be rad. And I end up watching this movie twice in the cinema.

First of all, it's a Marvel movie and Paul Rudd is a superhero. From the very first scene, I feel like a 10 years old who finally could see her superhero right in front of her eyes. And they brought us to the prison scene, BAM close up Paul Rudd on the very big screen and remember when Scott is walk out from the prison and met Luis? Thanks God I didn't jump to the seat in front of me to give Scott a hug (because it's IMAX, you know what I mean.. the effect). My next thought for the scene when Scott is believe himself that it would be easy for him to get a job and then "Welcome to Baskin Robbins", that's how I know this movie would have Paul Rudd vibes or let's say hilarious. By the end of the movie, I always said 'Awesome... I need to watch it again). And for second times I watched it on IMAX which is I fully recommend to watch it there.

My next stop would be Captain America: Civil War and I have to wait until 2016. Ant-Man and Iron Man would be there, could I be any more exciting? My inner nerds is really obvious when Marvel movies is coming. But obsessed over something could make our life a little bit more exciting, I guess. As long it doesn't bother your work or something. Sometimes daily life could be so bored, like you have to wake up every morning, you have to workout, and start your job. And there goes your obsession over something, it could entertained you a little bit. It makes everything seems a little more exciting.

Lost In Thought

Blue Shirt // Gaudi

Crop Tank // H&M

Sneakers Wedges // H&M

Black Pants // Topshop

Bag // Kenzo

Where your inspiration go? Working on a creative industry means that you need to be creative all the time. As entrepreneur, I need to grow my creativity, get a lot of ideas, and maintain a lot of things in the process. But what if I'm stuck and I don't have any idea at all? Well, we all human and I'm sure we've been through those position before whether you work as an entrepreneur, 9-5 job, or even at school. But as I learned on my 20s: Never let "Lack of Idea" drag you down. Because when you let it, you will go down to a rabbit hole. Here's what I do when I'm running out of idea:

Don't push yourself to get an idea. I've got that advance from my favorite designer, Tex Saverio when I asked him about it and I realize that's totally true. First of all, you can't sit and try to think like a maniac to get an idea for your work. Sit and stare in front of your computer wouldn't inspire you. Relax and do something that would make you feel less panic so you wouldn't freak out with the deadline.

Take your notebook to a coffee shop. Since I was in college, I like to write my thesis at a coffee shop. Since I have a home office and I'm running out of ideas, I like to bring my notebook and get my work done at a coffee shop. Observe people, a nice smell from a coffee shop, have a nice drink could give me any inspiration. 

Walk in a park. I don't do it on my working hours of course, but I do it on my spare times. Walk alone in a good weather and you have a time to think in a better mood. That will do.

Read some books and watch movies. This is also what you should do in your spare times. When I have a day off or really stuck with my ideas, book is always helps. Or browsing the internet, gosh you have google wherever you go d'uh! And I found that watching movies always give me so many inspiration. Sometimes it could be a motivation as well. I could spend hours and hours watching Judd Apatow movies. Believe me, good laugh could make your brain works better.

Put on some good music. I have my own playlist to brighten up my mood. Working is so much fun if you have some good music that you could listen. I have my favorite playlist and I just posted on Instagram, in case you want to check it out (@deeisdian). I'm sure you will find a song that you knew because my playlist is a mix of 70's, 80's, 90's and even music from the present. Yeah I know I have a weird playlist but I love it.

Look at your role model. Get inspired from your idol. That will push you to get better and also to make you work even harder to achieve what you want.

Set your goals. Write down your goals and if you're running a business, write a business plan. When I was younger I thought this isn't important but I was extremely wrong. When you set your goals and write down your plan, you will know how to do next because you know where you're about to go. You could find a way to solve your problem easier.

That's what I usually do. And if you still failed to get an idea, keep calm because there will always be a plan b, plan c until plan z. you just have to hang on and you will achieve your goals.

 

Things I Like The Most From Ant-Man

Buttoned Polka Dot Shirt // Forever 21 

Black Pants // Topshop 

Wedge-Heel Sneakers // H&M 

Black Bag // Saint Laurent

I've been waiting for Ant-Man since I've heard that Paul Rudd would be Scott Lang. I'm a fan of Paul Rudd since I saw him on Friends series (yes, my favorite series ever). So I'm really stoked to see him as a superhero. It's a holiday season and cinema isn't really friendly, I mean the queue is so long and I need to mention it that I don't have the best seat because a kid beside my ate his popcorn so loud. But let's leave all of it behind because it's worth it. The movie is as great as I was expect it. I would definitely recommend everyone to watch it especially if you're a fan of superhero. I have so many reason to say and here's the short list of what I love the most from Ant-Man Movie:

1. Paul Rudd as Scott Lang

Well this is my personal reason because I like Paul Rudd and I watched all of his movies. But I could say that he is the perfect Scott Lang. Can't imagine if someone else play this role.

2. The Jokes 

Scott Lang small joke is funny! I enjoy the scene when Hank and Hope tried to train him as Ant-Man, really entertaining. Also, Scott have 3 friends and they all really hilarious, especially Luis.. can't help myself not to laugh everytime he tell any story to his friends. Last but not least, Ant-Man could shrink and when they started to show us a human point of view (not ant point of view) it seems so riddiculous. You'll find out by yourself when you see Scott Lang fight his enemy on her daughter's room.

3. A Family Guy

It melts my heart to see Scott Lang can't see his daughter and even though he was paroled, he wants to do everything for his daughter. He put his daughter on top of her list, what a great dad. And her friendship with his ride, Ant-hony.. Dang I get emotional on a lot of scene. I also kind of person who likes to pray on the movie, I was like "Please don't die.. please don't die.." As if my wish could change the movie.

4. Small Superhero

It's pretty rare to find a tiny superhero but even though he is the size of an ant, he have a great power. And I gain more respect to ants. Maybe you won't kill any ants after you watch this movie, who knows. Because there's a lot of scene that will show you what it's like to see based from ants point of view.

5. Avengers

I'm sure you already know that this movie has something with Avengers. Even Hank talk about Stark and yes, you could find more Avengers stuff on this movie but I don't wanna give you any spoiler.

That's my short list of the reason why you need to watch Ant-Man. But seriously, I love this movie. And I can't wait to see Ant-Man appearance on Captain America: Civil War. By the way, earlier before the movie premiere, I found Ant-Man photobooth. We could choose the background before we took a photo on the green screen and of course I choose a scene with Scott Lang. I can't stop laughing to see the photo's result, cheesy photos as you could see below! We tried to touch Scott Lang and how could it seems like Scott is trying to grab my butt on the first photo? I get it, this is a riddiculous photos but I feel like I need to post it just for fun.

Once Upon A Maxi Dress

"If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't" - Alice In Wonderland

Peasant Lace Back Maxi Dress // Forever 21

Wedge Heel Sneakers // H&M

Salem Bag // Elle

Maxi dress become a trend from years to years and also still a trend for Spring 2015. I have never own a maxi dress before, surprise story.. this is my grandma's maxi dress. I'm glad I have a very fashionable grandma, she even shop on Forever 21 and she could dress herself properly with any kind of clothes she wants and still looks fabulous. What I love the most from this maxi dress is the dress looks simple but it has a lace back which make this dress looks stunning and classy. Does anybody remember a movie from mid-90's called The Craft? This maxi dress kind of remind me of witchcraft era or a villain on a fairy tales. In a good way of course, because in my opinion those character in the movie always have a real good style.