Down But Not Out: Things You Need To Do If You Have Frenemy

Cross Keys T-Shirt // DBNO

Shorts // Etcetera

Vans Era Leopard Black True White // Vans

Reppin' my favorite DBNO T-shirt and I go really casual today, back to basic! I'm sure you all knew this clothing line owned by Josh Franceschi from You Me At Six I love his band and I love how he named his clothing line, Down But Not Out. That's some kind of feelings that remind me of my frenemy. Do you ever have a frenemy? Someone who really is a friend but also a rival. Well, I have a frenemy. The question is: Should we keep them as a friend? The best answer would be leave them because it's really exhausting to have a frenemy. It's like we have to pretend we like each others while actually we really don't like each others, heard them say a lot of mean things when you're with your friends and your frenemy also happened to be there. But sometimes, there's a reason why you still keep them. Most reason of why we still keep our frenemy is both of you have a mutual friends. This is a very uncomfortable situation. And if you can't get rid of your frenemy, it's not the end of the world. You could set your goal to be a better person, better life, and don't you ever waste your energy to hate on them. 

When my frenemy hurt my feelings, I'm down but not out. (Now you could see my point of wearing my DBNO t-shirt on this post). It hurts but I don't wanna waste my time to hate her or make a secret poison for her, I promise to myself that I will be way much better than her. I will be twice successful as her and I will be a person that I really want to be. When I was thinking about this.. it makes me focus to chase my dreams, not to make her jealous but to make myself better. Anybody could bring you down but you're the one who could step up your game. I'm glad because after a few months I have 3 jobs that I love, I have a lot of friends, I put bandage on every part of my life that I need to fix. And that's how you won the awkward war with your frenemy! You will laugh back to the day when she hurt your feelings and now you have a good life and she's no better than you. No need to fight with them, be fabulous and say sorry to your frenemy if your back hurt their knife.

If you have a frenemy, share your story with me! It would be great to hear what you all dealing with it.

Lost In Thought

Blue Shirt // Gaudi

Crop Tank // H&M

Sneakers Wedges // H&M

Black Pants // Topshop

Bag // Kenzo

Where your inspiration go? Working on a creative industry means that you need to be creative all the time. As entrepreneur, I need to grow my creativity, get a lot of ideas, and maintain a lot of things in the process. But what if I'm stuck and I don't have any idea at all? Well, we all human and I'm sure we've been through those position before whether you work as an entrepreneur, 9-5 job, or even at school. But as I learned on my 20s: Never let "Lack of Idea" drag you down. Because when you let it, you will go down to a rabbit hole. Here's what I do when I'm running out of idea:

Don't push yourself to get an idea. I've got that advance from my favorite designer, Tex Saverio when I asked him about it and I realize that's totally true. First of all, you can't sit and try to think like a maniac to get an idea for your work. Sit and stare in front of your computer wouldn't inspire you. Relax and do something that would make you feel less panic so you wouldn't freak out with the deadline.

Take your notebook to a coffee shop. Since I was in college, I like to write my thesis at a coffee shop. Since I have a home office and I'm running out of ideas, I like to bring my notebook and get my work done at a coffee shop. Observe people, a nice smell from a coffee shop, have a nice drink could give me any inspiration. 

Walk in a park. I don't do it on my working hours of course, but I do it on my spare times. Walk alone in a good weather and you have a time to think in a better mood. That will do.

Read some books and watch movies. This is also what you should do in your spare times. When I have a day off or really stuck with my ideas, book is always helps. Or browsing the internet, gosh you have google wherever you go d'uh! And I found that watching movies always give me so many inspiration. Sometimes it could be a motivation as well. I could spend hours and hours watching Judd Apatow movies. Believe me, good laugh could make your brain works better.

Put on some good music. I have my own playlist to brighten up my mood. Working is so much fun if you have some good music that you could listen. I have my favorite playlist and I just posted on Instagram, in case you want to check it out (@deeisdian). I'm sure you will find a song that you knew because my playlist is a mix of 70's, 80's, 90's and even music from the present. Yeah I know I have a weird playlist but I love it.

Look at your role model. Get inspired from your idol. That will push you to get better and also to make you work even harder to achieve what you want.

Set your goals. Write down your goals and if you're running a business, write a business plan. When I was younger I thought this isn't important but I was extremely wrong. When you set your goals and write down your plan, you will know how to do next because you know where you're about to go. You could find a way to solve your problem easier.

That's what I usually do. And if you still failed to get an idea, keep calm because there will always be a plan b, plan c until plan z. you just have to hang on and you will achieve your goals.